© by Guest Author Alexandra Enns
Occasionally, I am asked how to become a “natural lucid dreamer” or how to develop a “lucid mind”. I am then also confronted with questions like: How do you make it? Why do you stay calm if a new technique is introduced or a new “promising device” hits the market? Don’t you want to dream the quick way lucidly?
“As with anything else in life, a quick approach is simply less satisfying.”, I would usually answer giving the inquirer some ambivalent thoughts to chew upon. And, then add something ironic like: “Why do you think I have composed an entire workbook to enhance dream awareness?”
Having stumbled upon a “synchronicity text” recently, I am finally going to be more precise while explaining my view on this topic.
First of all, let me recommend you the book “Before You Know It” by Dr John Bargh, an American expert on the unconscious mind.
Why you should read this book, not only as a (future) lucid dreamer:
You acquire general education in the study of the mind (either your catalyst or obstacle on your way to lucidity or any other goal).
You understand the difference between the conscious and unconscious mechanisms (Since you are constantly influencing others and vice versa; ever thought about what you see/read is what you do in the end?).
You learn how to effectively prime your mind (is it lucidity or not you want to achieve).
You find out when to trust those gut feelings of yours (So it is indeed a lifetime survival kit!).
While dealing with “Before You Know It”, this mnemonic spontaneously popped out of my mind, I would like to share with you here:
So, indeed, from my point of view, with the help of this reminder, it is possible to develop a lucid mind and even unmask an ambiguous term like “fate” at the same time ;)
To begin, try to enhance self-awareness in the waking state. Step by step and through occasional mistakes (experience is built upon them!) try to grasp the ways your subconscious is reaching out for your attention.
Take into consideration how easily you might be influenced by your “hidden unconscious past” or even the change in body temperature. See through cultural stereotypes, biases or manipulations through mass media. We’re all bombarded by subliminal messages or advertising the whole time. Learn to determine what is really helpful for your development.
In other words, question your waking reality, separate the wheat from the chaff. Don’t get deceived by making your subconscious clear that discernment is the faculty you want to acquire. Both disjointed thinking and volatile behaviour will destroy your previous efforts.
By no means, I am not trying deterring you from experimenting with various lucid dreaming techniques – this is a great component of lucidity practice making it rich in variety. However, pose yourself this question from time to time:
Do I really know myself? Shall I probe into my mind in the lucid state if I negate the first question in my waking reality?
Many people who asked me the questions mentioned above often did not want to hear my somewhat shattering answer:
“Lucidity is primarily learnt through effort and genuine interest. You have to work consistently on your perception. On your perception of your surroundings, of your subconscious, of your dreams and, above all that, compare these from time to time to learn about the differences. It is a passion for living and a journey of self-acceptance.”
This might sound like a mental overload – but you always have the choice of what to concentrate upon in the waking state. Therefore, choose wisely and cultivate a lucid mind on the unconscious level if it is your prior goal.
In my opinion, it is possible to become a natural lucid dreamer, but, in the first place, it is helpful to remove the image of instant success from one’s mind. You are only slowly carving out your future abilities, imagine working on a stone sculpture instead. Even if it feels like you seem to stay in the same spot for a long time, remember that constant dropping will wear away the stone (!) – you are investing in future skills that are more sustainable.
I think life is not only about lucid dreaming. Consider this is someone saying who thinks and writes on lucidity most of the time available, apart from worldly tasks and responsibilities. While it might be incredibly helpful to have a lucid mind, from my experience, it is more vital to be as selfless as possible, to cultivate genuine care of others without achieving goals at their expense, setting an example… being kind.
To finish, some favourite quotes of mine from the discussed title:
“Wishing for positive things, such as setting an important goal for yourself, can help make your dreams come true because while you are dreaming, your unconscious never sleeps.”
It’s time to become aware of what is really going on in your mind – using this book, you’ll figure it out, and also learn about the infinite possibilities of unconscious problem solving, one of them through dreams –
“the wonderful, muggy, Floridian swamp of the mind where strange journeys occur and breakthroughs sometimes take place. At least, I think of dreams this way. Since in such a place, I discovered my miraculous alligator.”
Bargh, J. PhD (2017). Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do, Audible audiobook.
About the Author:
Alexandra Enns is a German writer and blogger with the primary focus on lucid dreaming; be sure to take a look at her blog “Traumlektuere”.
Credits: Artwork by Beeple